Never underestimate the power of support.
Without our knowledge or son decided to send an email to all of this grandparents and Uncles/aunts to come out several nights ago. He only told us after he sent it.
I freaked out. Not because he sent it. But because I wasn’t prepared for it. We had discussed that he wanted these family members to know. I knew it was only a matter of time before they found out but it literally came out of the blue.
I am happy to say that all of the reactions have been positive. The basic theme was “you are no different than you were yesterday. We love you no matter what.” This is huge. Not all of these family members are socially liberal. They’re not all literally OR figuratively waving rainbow flags in support of the LGBT people they know. Some of them are pretty religious. But they were all willing to realize that their family member comes first. That he is a person first and foremost. And that they need to show him their love and support.
I am not downplaying how hugely amazing this is. I know people who haven’t told family members that their children are gay (and the children are completely out to the rest of the world). I don’t question why they wouldn’t tell them, it is incredibly hard. I am so thankful that this is not an obstacle that we are dealing with. Our son has come out to the adult members of our family whose opinions he values. And he has their support. He is so lucky. We are all so lucky.
I know it won’t always be this easy. But I’m savoring this moment.